Relationships

Relationships

I received this article as a forwarded mail.It's worth reading.Found it too good and thought to share with all of you. Read it till the end … this would change your perception about all your relations and brighten your day for sure..!!!


TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, and good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent, when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered," You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately get down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "But when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Thanks,

Ahmed......

THE MAGIC OF THINKING

THE MAGIC OF THINKING
NEGATIVE ATTITUDE DRAINS OUT ENERGY WHILE POSITIVE THINKING EMPOWERS,

"There is nothing wrong or right except your thinking, which makes it so.." - Shakespeare
Power of thinking has been one of the most talked about topics ever. In the modern era, the focus has been more on the positive thinking. A lot has been written about ir. Bookstores are flooded with books on related topics, while news papers are hiring experts to write columns, as it has been one of the most read topics as well. Meanwhile , a number of oraganisations have also started taking Employee Assistance Services (EAP) to keep their employees postive and cheerful.
But only a few practice what is advised by the experts. mainly because, it is beyond their imagination.
How much positive thinking can transform the life of a person is evident from an incident, which hogged media limelight in the mid 9os.
"A young patient was admitted to a hospital in the U.S, Where doctors daignosed that he was suffering from a tumour. The disease was declared incurable and the patient was expected to surive not more than six months.
But the family members were told not to disclose this to the patient. Thus, while leaving the hospital, he was told to enjoy life as if there was nothing to worry about.
Although family members were counting days, he was leading a cheerful life. when a year passed without any trouble, his relatives registered a case against the doctor saying he misguided them. A team of medical experts carried out various examinations and were amazed to see that the tumour had disappeared.
People thought it was a miracle. In fact, it was a miracle (Subhanaallah) + it was the power of positive thinking that transformed illness into cure"

Thinking - a way of life

It is simply a process through which people look at various aspects of day-to-day life. It is described as the way people look at life. Someone's success is measured by his attitude, which is a result of his belief system, Upbringing, Socialisation and experience.
According to me "Attitude" is not static, it changes from time to time and it should change with time.
Positive thinking produces hormones which makes a person agile, energetic, cheerful and resilient, While negative think produces hormones that makes a person gloomy, lethargic and pessemestic.
Postive attitude gives power and energy to move ahead, it is the force that drives towards a particular goal.
It inculcates the habit of winning, it gives faith to face adversity and makes a tough and tiring journey smooth. People with psotive attitude are always found cheerful. They are experimental by nature and very receptive too. They believe in the philosophy of moving ahead and begin their day with great excitement, with the hope to do something good. Never blame a person or situation for their failure, rather take the responsibility and try to correct it. They never indulge in negative gossip.
Thus people with positive attitude are bound to shine sooner or later.
History has seen many personalities who carved a niche for themseleves, even after going through tough times of their life. For instance, former captain of the Indain cricket team Saurav Ganguly and the Australian cricket team. They have set an example for others to follow.
While Ganguly bounced back after Indian media and team management declared him a failure. Aussies, on the other hand, have remained invincible in prestigious tournaments like the ICC Cricket World Cup.
People need to understand that negative attitude drains out energy and makes small things tough and insurmountable. It reduces the energy level and diminishes the fighting spirit. It brings failure in life much before it actually comes. People with negative attitude always focus on their failure. And their subconcious mind are flooded with negative statements that control the mind, which is bound to yeild negative results.
Thus positive attitude should be inculcated in the self as it is a matter of choice, not chance. It makes life cheerful and it brings positive energy and provides immense fighting spirit. Circumstances can't be changed at times, But it can be improved with the help of thinking positively.

Positive attitude is simply magic and more powerful than any wonder drugs.


Ahmed.